The Power of One-on-One Parent-Child Time
In the rush of school, sports, homework, and busy schedules, parents often find themselves juggling multiple responsibilities at once. Between coordinating drop-offs, cooking dinner, and answering work emails, it can feel nearly impossible to slow down and connect with each child individually. Yet research and clinical experience show that one-on-one time between a parent and child can be one of the most powerful tools for building connection and reducing conflict at home.
Why One-on-One Time Matters
Children crave their parent’s attention. When they do not receive enough positive attention, they may resort to acting out as a way to be noticed. One-on-one time provides an opportunity for children to feel seen, valued, and deeply connected to the person who matters most to them. These moments can help strengthen self-esteem, reduce behavioral challenges, and improve the overall parent-child bond.
Even ten minutes a day of intentional connection can make a difference. This is not about the quantity of time spent together but rather the quality. When a child experiences undivided attention, they feel important and secure. Over time, these experiences build resilience and trust, making it easier for children to share their thoughts and feelings with their parent.
What One-on-One Time Looks Like
Parents sometimes imagine that one-on-one time requires a special outing or elaborate activity. In reality, children benefit most from simple, everyday moments that allow them to take the lead. This might look like:
Reading a book together before bed
Playing a short board game or card game
Taking a walk around the neighborhood
Coloring, building with blocks, or doing a craft side by side
Sitting on the porch and chatting about the day
The key is to be fully present. Put away the phone, turn off distractions, and let the child know that this time is just for them.
Following the Child’s Lead
One of the most effective ways to structure one-on-one time is to allow the child to choose the activity. When children take the lead, they gain a sense of autonomy and control, which can be especially important if they often feel powerless in other areas of life. This also communicates respect for their preferences and individuality.
As a parent, you do not need to correct, direct, or turn the moment into a lesson. Instead, reflect what you see, show genuine curiosity, and allow space for the child’s ideas. This approach is often used in play therapy and can be easily adapted at home.
How It Strengthens the Parent-Child Relationship
Over time, consistent one-on-one time can transform family dynamics. Children who feel connected are more likely to cooperate, regulate emotions, and show empathy toward others. Parents may notice fewer power struggles and more moments of joy. These simple but powerful interactions serve as a reminder that children do not need perfection from their parents, they simply need presence.
A Small Step With a Big Impact
You do not have to clear your schedule or plan elaborate outings to connect with your child. A short, consistent practice of one-on-one time can create lasting benefits for both of you. When children feel deeply connected to their parents, they develop a stronger foundation for navigating the ups and downs of childhood and beyond.
So this week, try setting aside ten minutes each day with your child. Follow their lead, put aside distractions, and let them know they have your full attention. You may be surprised by how much these moments strengthen your relationship and bring more peace into your home.
Want Extra Support Building Connection?
At Reach Counseling, we are passionate about helping parents feel more confident and connected with their children. Our Child-Parent Relationship Therapy (CPRT) group is designed to give parents hands-on tools, guided practice, and encouragement for creating meaningful one-on-one time at home. Parents who participate in CPRT often see less stress, more cooperation, and deeper emotional bonds with their children. If you are looking for additional support in strengthening your parent-child relationship, consider joining our next CPRT group.
